Here I am...sitting in the recliner, grading the blogs. I am also watching reruns of The Cosby Show. well, not really watching, but just having some noise around.
This particular episode is where Vanessa goes out with Jeremy when she told her parents that she was studying with a friend. Rudy's help was enlisted to lie for her so she could stay out later than her curfew, which of course gave the whole scheme away to Cliff and Claire. Lying is the topic of the show. Lying.
Just when the phone rang this morning, I was ready to read the next post in Julie's blog. The title? "When is it okay to lie?" with a focus on Huckleberry Finn. If you haven't read that post, I encourage you to do so. Very good!
My husband and I have always been honest with each other. We haven't lied to our daughters, and they know the value of honesty. We know that honesty and trust have been a focus of their relationships with their husbands, and I hear Hilary talk about telling the truth to Landon.
Where do we encounter lying? Sadly, too many places. But the place I see/hear it the most is on campus or in my classes. How often have I heard the reasons for not completing a paper (left it at home, left it in my car then my mom took the car, saved it on the flashdrive but left the flashdrive at home, saved it on the flashdrive but now the flashdrive doesn't work, sent it through BB but for some reason it didn't show up) when the real reason the paper isn't finished is because the student didn't finish it. I know this. If I send the student to the LRC for help...he balks. If I make a deal for the student to send the paper to me IMMEDIATELY when he arrives home, it never arrives. Why not? It was left there, wasn't it? No paper arrives. The same thing happens with attendance. A doctor's appointment that can only be made during class time. Other emergencies that just happen and are so complicated and elaborate when told that I have to stifle the smile. Very creative!
Is it any surprise that I am skeptical when the excuses come in? Yes, I like to give the benefit of the doubt, and of course there is always the maxim of "Innocent until proven guilty." But it is very hard when lying is so natural, so prevalent, and so much of a normal part of our society. People do it. Politicians do it. You know people who do it. Sad, isn't it?
That's why it was refreshing to read Julie's post. Coincidence that reading Julie's post, the experiences with my mom, a call from my sister about Mom's 'twisting the truth,' and the Cosby episode about Vanessa's lying all occurred in the same four hour time span? I think not. Maybe we all need a reminder now and then about this part of our character.
Note: When I searched for a picture of Vanessa Huxtable, I found one where she was wearing the same outfit as the episode I viewed. How about that!